
In the FB group that I recently joined (Christians and Atheists), I have already heard several times the claim that Christians are trying to force their beliefs on others. I have asked several folks what they mean when they make that claim, but have heard no definition of the phrase given. We are free to use words and phrases as we choose, but to have effective communication, we need to be able to operate on the notion that we are both using terms the same way.
I personally use the word force to mean to apply some type of pressure (physical, emotional, psychological, and etc.) in such a way that the “forcer” is able to exert the pressure effectively to bring about the desired result upon the “forcee”. I can force a 2 year old to stay on one place by holding them tightly in my arms. The justice system can force an adjudicated person to go to prison. I do not, however, see any way for one human being to “force” a belief / belief system onto another person.
One can use psychological pressure to get another to comply or even to act like they believe this new way, but it is operationally impossible (outside of a Jedi using “the force” and God) to absolutely make another human think different thoughts. We all know that. All we can do is influence by argument, wooing, encouraging, and etc..
A Christian (or any other adherent to a religious system) does not force anyone to become a Christian or another type of convert. Try this… have someone in your presence repeat a certain word in their head and then you, from across the room, force them to think a different word over and over. Or how about this…chatting with someone online – try the same thing. Can you force another person online to change even a single word in their head? No. If we cannot force them to think even one word differently, how is it possible to get them to change their entire ideology or religion that way? Again, deep down we know it is not possible.
I once had a discussion with a young man from the Middle east try to change my mind about Israel. I gave arguments back against his claims. Eventually he got to the point that he knew he wasn’t going to get me to change my mind, he literally threatened to track down my address and come to the US and kill me. My response was to give him my address. He was, as you already know, trying to intimidate me. It didn’t work, But there’s the thing – even if he did come here and kill me, it would not have forced me to change my mind. I would die believing the same thing. All he would have accomplished is to shut me up (more on that in another post).
All we Christians can and should do is demonstrate God’s love, share the gospel, and present good arguments if they do not accept what we share. In our online religious discussion group TORN, people of all faiths or no faiths are welcome to present their beliefs and they can do so safely because we do not allow personal attacks. We strongly encourage folks to make their claims. Heck, we give them 30 minutes – uninterrupted – to give us their arguments, but only if they promise to allow others in the group to challenge them when they are finished. No forcing, just respectful discussions and disagreement.
And as I reminded those online who charge Christians with forcing them to believe us is that they are doing the same think back with their ideology or religion. No one is forced.
As Dave Mason sang, “It’s only you and me and we just disagree”.
Jim Shaul
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